BTM,
sorry for the pain you are going through. You've already given yourself the necessary 2x4s, so no need for me to rehash them. There is one thing I have to point out though... xmas is over 6 months away! I understand looking to the future, but that's waaaay too far in advance to know where any of you will be.

Focus on today, maybe tomorrow. Not July, not December, today!

Me 43 W 38
M 5 T 7
SD20
S15, S13 with 1st W
ILYBNILWY June 2010
Separation/Bomb July 2010
Divorce Feb 8, 2011