how many posts do you have to post before you are "cleared"?
Apparently more than 984.
In fairness to the mods, 25, I got my hands slapped for linking to another marital advice message board, and for advocating exposure of affairs. The latter of which still has merit, I believe, but it's also against DB principles and as we are all guests of this site, I have to abide by those rules like anyone else.
It's a shame, however, as I'm online frequently throughout the day, and I think I could help people with some more IMMEDIATE advice, but my posts get stuck in the queue for 1-3 days. If the PTBs are looking for a promise from me that I will NOT post links to other marital websites, nor proactively advocate exposure (I still believe that, if asked, you should NOT lie to directly cover up an affair), then they have it.
Doubt it'll do much good, though. The old wounds run pretty deep -- in both directions.
