There is really little we hide from our spouse, they know or suspect most.

The sex therapist that helped my wife and me, told us that sex is best if you are in a child-like, playful and explorative state of mind. She also said that some folk self medicate with alcohol to get in that state, but sex is really a lot better if you don't have to use alcohol. Sex should include laughter and playing.

Speaking of which, you may have miss a potentially great opportunity to have bought your wife a cheerleader outfit and have role playing sex with a "goth cheerleader." Oh well.

I am glad that you are getting set for you move and that you are finding much greater happiness than when you first posted.

>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.