Letting go is hard to do!

[Queen_of_Swords]

Hi Seminole,
In reading your situation it sounds like your W has got a lot of anger/resentment towards you. It's unfortunate she or her lawyer want to go for the jugular.

I have to say if your wife has a problem with alcohol, you MUST put the welfare of your kids first.
Living with an alcoholic does things to kids that will effect them negatively over the long term and even into their future love relationships.

You have no control over how your wife perceives things, or works herself into a lather over imagined slights. She's an adult and well able to look after herself if she chooses to. Your kids can't.