Agree with the pass, Sandi. And, when talking with my brother yesterday, he too, suggested setting up a summer schedule. He has been great to talk to lately as he has been through his own hell with addiction and came out the outher side and is now helping others.
He loves the going dark strategy and believes when w parents leave and stop enabling, the cards will eventually fall for her but I need to keep working on me FOR ME because I am at rock bottom and w is cushioned from a lot. When she falls..I'll be strong. She and the kids just moved this weekend into the house her parents bought her and was pretty snippy on the phone with me when she called about household stuff. I was very nice, validated her and am working on being unpredictable.
This evening, I have the kids for awhile. Should be intereting with what the new neighbors have been told and how this proceeds in her new neighborhood where 6 co-workers live (teachers) and is 2 minutes from her job.
