Your story is almost identical to one that was here some time ago. Family couldn't afford to take care of their children and "gave" their teenage D to man.

His lack of affection and/or his lack of self-worth could be the root of his "shyness" that you talked about. But, if he was shy with intimacy with you, how do you think he would coop with a stranger?

And unless he's seen her live....he may not even be communicating with a female! I have read where that happens.

He was seduced and the OP pretended that your P was the greatest thing since candy......which caused his ego to swell, and a chemical was released in his brain that made him feel like he was in love. I know a little bit about that type of thing and I can tell ya, it is addicting. OP is playing on the vulnerability of your P.

I hope he doesn't start sending OP money to finance her move, or for her kid.....or a number of reasons. I think I've received similar emails from China!

Adults have been making decisions about your life...all your life. Now, however, you are free to make decisions for yourself.

((hugs))

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!