Thanks 25 you have been most helpful.

No she has not spoken about divorce or leaving, just said that she is still here and never packed her bags, which I have taken as a positive.

It interesting you noted the lack of sex/love making,her condition meant she has a low sex drive, much to my disappointment, but felt that was the price to pay to be with her. Now interesting an article on MSM, see below :

A 2002 study of almost 300 women by an American psychologist found that sexually active participants who were not using condoms as their contraceptive were less likely to suffer from depression than those who did. The experts involved believe that the hormone prostaglandin, which is only found in semen, may be absorbed into the female body, where it helps to regulate her hormones and thus reduce the risk of mental illness.

Now with the likelyhood of depression being in there (w)somewhere, for the last year or so we used condoms up to approx. Jan this year, then she returned to the pill, a newer one which she has said, that since being on it she was more interested in sex, shame she didn't let me know !

Since the bomb was dropped we have had sex 3 times and made love twice, previously that was 6 months worth.

Anyway I thought the scientific facts were interesting.

Onward with my self searching !