Legit DBing? or is this just calm before storm?

[MommaDucki]

25, also meant to answer your question as to what makes me think things will change? LOL!

Been doing a lot of soul searching, and I've realized that not only do I enable him, but the majority of the people he keeps in his life enable him as well...

So, keeping on this path, nothing will change...

What makes me think things will change is that I have a new job I'm about to start, am very close to getting D and I out of here, and am 26 days away from having "residency" in this county, so I plan to file D and try to get arrears for child support. The lawyer I talked to on the phone while on break this afternoon thinks I have a shot at arrears.

H wants D, fine...I'll go along with it, but ON MY TERMS, not his. You are very right 25 that I need to show him my boundaries.

So, it's been 2 1/2 years roughly...too long, because he's still the same...he's the same as he was before we got M...was blind, and stupid...and I loved the indea of being in love...didn't realize i wasn't actually in love.

When I first met him 10 years ago, he was the same as he is now...I wouldn't commit to him then because of how he lived life...so I'm not sure why I changed my mind and got M when he was still the same.

H told me once he thought that God brought us together to create D...nothing more...

bold statement, but if so, he doesn't measure up to being any sort of worthy parent...

Yes, I'll allow for visitation...possibly supervised at first...and no overnight stays, because I don't trust that.

I have ideas forming in my head of what I want out of this...

Time to stop being blind and stubborn towards him.

It's like I stepped on hot coals 5 years ago and said, "ouch! that's hot!!!" and I keep doing it over and over.

Found the burn care cream and now it's time to start healing!


So, things will change because I'll heal, move on, and take with me the lesson of all this.

Things will change for him when life finally catches up to him after D.

Things will improve for D3 and myself because I'll be gaining confidence in myself and moving on in a positive fashion.

Things will improve because D3 will see that her mom is strong and isn't being walked all over by a man. That her mom did what she had to do to make a happier life for both of us.

and things will improve because I've stopped caring what happens to H once and for all.

So, I hopefully summed that up ok.

thoughts?