from Talk...

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When she feels heard, she might be able to listen to your hurt, but not before. Fair? Maybe not. But that's my 2 cents.



I agree.

Denver, you have done A LOT to build/rebuild the relationship with your wife all along--you have had a lot of positives.

Going dark, setting boundaries, etc, doesn't do it all. It's the combination. It's what's in your hearts already. It's the undercurrent of love.

You won't move forward if you are too dark or set too many boundaries.

LISTENING is the start of REAL GIVING. And it will make or break you.

Talk gave you excellent advice.

dbmod