Hi Denver, I'm so new, I almost don't feel comfortable giving anyone advice.
After reading your latest update, the first thing that I thought was that even though, it might be uncomfortable for you, you must assuage your w's concerns of insecurity in the m before you can voice your own recent om-related concerns.
I can relate to your w in so many ways (other than the A). As irrational is it might sound, her main focus is still on the hurt she felt in the M, and I think she feels/felt justified wrt the A for a time. However, she did make an attempt to convice you that she was no longer seeing anyone, so she may have realized that she hurt you too, might have gone too far, and doesn't want to lose you.
When she feels heard, she might be able to listen to your hurt, but not before. Fair? Maybe not. But that's my 2 cents.
I think that she is going about planning things as if nothing happened because she is hoping you are going to reassure her. She is giving you an opportunity.
Go on the trip, have a good time, and listen to her.
I hope I didn't repeat what someone else has already said!
I think that you are correct about how my W feels right now.
I am getting A LOT of advice from others who are VERY familiar with my sitch, other bits, that my W is taking advantage of me right now. These people are saying that my W feels that she can get anything she wants from me and is taking advantage of it.
I've posted the EXACT same updates with the people telling me this that I have here. I'm curious if anyone thinks the same thing here?
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
