Maybe you need to add a plate to your dog tags that has engraved on it, "WWANGD?, Glover" (What would a Nice Guy Do) just so if you think you are acting as a Nice Guy or as a centered and integrated man. As someone who has worked hard to no longer be a NG, but to still be a loving, supportive husband, who gets his (and his family's) needs met, I can't tell you often I have to do some introspection on my motivation on things with my wife, just to make sure I am doing things for the right reasons.
Seriously don't be too hard on yourself. You will do things you are unsure of and your wife will backslide. Focus on the future and making it better.
One of the things that Mr Bond said that resonated with me was the need to focus on some things that did not involve sex. You haven't really talked about your bicycle investments much recently, nor how you were planning to use them once you arrive at your new posting.
We also talked about having some goals for things to do once you arrive so that you won't find yourelf in a new place and bored out of your head, but I don't remember ever hearing of any goals/plans that you and your wife had. Now might be a good time to work with her on a few fund things you are "both" looking forward to.
I know that there are lots of couples weekend courses that help couples identify and focus on what are some of their shared visions/deams and the direction that they want their lives to go (grow).
I look forward to hearing more about your introduction of PM to your wife. I am wondering if I need to break out my PM book and see about trying to get my wife interested in parts of it.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
