Pregnancy and the LD husband

[Dr.mom]

Y.A.H. that really helps. Thank you for your reply.

I did my fair share of bitching during the pregnancy. Oops. I tried not to be too graphic, but I guess I was just trying to "share" the changes of pregnancy with my H. Then again, I never expected him to "take me", and was stunned that he'd even reject me performing oral sex on him. At least during that time, I figured I could make HIM happy, even though I couldn't see my feet, let alone try for an orgasm. . .

I do agree with the Madonna-Whore complex, and it's role here. My H is older (48) and has never been married (we've been married little over a year (yep, the pregnancy stunned us both). He's not been real successful in the dating world over 40. I think a lot of his, ummm, sexual and social interaction was "online" before we started dating seriously. Chat rooms and such . . .

SO . . . .he categorized women in "that world" and then there is me. He is an honorable man, where respect means a lot. And he treats me like a queen. Few men these days insist on opening the car door for their wives . .everytime. He never really liked it that I'm open and agressive sexually. I learned to tone it down a bit for him. Even though I never understood it. I mean, why can a guy be totally into watching women in videos perform certain acts and then freak out if A REAL girl next to them is interesed in the same . . .

SO yeah, I definitely went to "mommy -status" at the first sign of pregnancy. He was (and still is) sweet, protective, and caring. And all I want is him to rip my clothes off and talk dirty to me (((roll eyes))).

I get the usual complains of him being "too tired, too stressed, too ditracted" for sex, complaints of backaches, head aches, and all sorts of things.

The baby has been relatively easy. He never got up nights to take care of her and slept on another floor. She started sleeping thru the night at 8 weeks (yeah I know, I'm a lucky mom) and logs in 10-12 hours non-stop thru the night. She's a delightful child and rarely cries. I wonder if there is something wrong with her LOL.

I can see how the world of responsibility has come crashing down on him. I know he stresses about work, and being a provider. But I think a lot of it is self-induced. Our mortgage is paid off by me several years ago, I have a million dollar trust fund, and am a doctor, sooooooo I could just as easily go back to work, should he decide to be Mister Mom. SO I can't understand how there is pressure on him. We are luckier than most, no doubt, and most days I tend to dance around the house gleeful and happy.

SO what gives?

I do suspect something medical, however my background in the field tends to make me point in that direction for everything, physical vs. emotional.

Good luck getting him to the doctor . . .. How does one accomplish this?