I'm thinking of getting the Sex-Starved Wife and starting from there.
...Maybe it's all the breast-feeding. Turns him off. But it ramps up my oxytocin and other hormones . . .
Can men get post-partum depression? I'd suggest he get seen for low testosterone, but you know how guys are about the doctor .. .
I still can't get him to even say the word "vasectomy" let alone talk to a doctor about one . . Guys just don't want to talk about their "man parts".
Some additional "guy" comments.
By all means get the book, MWD is great!!!!
Breast feeding: What was once a sexual object of desire, became something functional and important to the health of our children. That was emotionally hard for me as I have always been a breast guy. Again, not proud of the way I handled things and would try to do things differently now.
I am not sure that guys get post-partum depression, but we do get sleep deprevations, a healthy dose of increased financial responsibility and like the weight of the world is not on our shoulders, a sense that we need to grow up and be responsible for a family. That is a lot of stress and change that can happen to a guy, which can result in mild depression. It was rude to realize that I had a mortgage, car payments, wife & children to feed and it all really depended mostly on my job. If for some reason things got bad at work, it was up to me to figure out how to make ends meet. That is real sobering.
As to low T, if he is over 40, tell him he is a dad and you need him to be healthy for the next 20 to 30 years and he will go get a complete physical, hormones, liver function, blood glucose, bone density, lipids, EKG, the whole nine yards.
Low T is really common these days with men over 40, especially if they are overweight. Belly fat can convert testosterone into estrogen in men and just kill their T levels and libido. It can do all kinds of other bad things as well. The CDC says taht 2/3rds of the adult US population is either overweight or obesse, which means that a huge number of men have low T levels.
Vasectomy.....that was something that my wife wanted me to get and I didn't want to happen. Not sure I am proud of that one, but if you read some of the information, there can be real complications due to auto-immune reactions from the operation. The complications are rare, but they still occur.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
