....Did your wife's pregnancy affect your sex-drive?
Yes it did in several ways.
First, I became very protective of my wife and the about to be mother of my child and not wanting to do anything that might hurt her or our baby. Old wives tales about intercourse/orgasms causing contractions and labor really didn't help late term either. There really is such a thing as a madonna/whore complex that some men get.
Second, my wife went into a real self-image issue. Prior to becoming obviously pregnant, when she walked down the street guys checked her out. When she was "really" pregnant, she said that men no longer looked at her and she felt hideous. That lack of self confidence on her part translated into not being sexy around me, which translated into a lower level of sexual tension between us.
The complaining on her part about hemroids, swollen ankles, sciatic nerve pain, not being able to sleep, really made "taking her" or having passionate sex almost impossible.
So the quick answer was that as much as I still needed sex, later term pregnancy just about killed my sex drive and the sleep deprevation that followed, didn't help much. However, we eventually bounced back, which was mostly thanks to my wife knowing how important sex was to us.
Knowing what I know now, I would have tried to handle things a lot differently and tried for more sensual and touching sex during my wife's pregnancy. But as they say youth is lost on the young. Not really proud of how I reacted or interacted with my wife, but we survived and have two wonderful adult children.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
