I am using EA in a loose form, perhaps. An EA in this case would be that he is still married (yes, to you) but has seemed to be getting emotional needs met by being with you (the EA).
Yes, it is cake eating to some degree, but if you weren't his W, then it would be cake eating never the less as that is what an A is.
How would you handle this R if he were married to someone else? Or if he wasn't married? Or if you two didn't have history and you actually WANTED to be with this guy?
That's how you should plan your "act as if" around him and this R with him. It might work out really well for you.
