She has missed so much already. Shoot I have as well. We are part time parents now. How does a mother chose to give up so much of her D's life?
Country, this is always hard to think that a parent can be selfish. As you said, you have created some great memories with your daughter. That's what matters the most. I guess all that can be done at this moment is to the best dads we can.
hope you feel better.
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You are worried she is going to challenge you on the bug bites and claim you are a bad dad for not preventing them?
No, not worried about that, I just didn’t want to have to respond. However, being a specific question about D I felt I had to. Just kind of P’d me off. I was not in a great mood last night.
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Validate. "Yes, bugs were bad. D got bites and I got many as well. It was crazy with bugs. Next time maybe bugs won't be as bad..."
Nothing you can do about nature and even the best bug remedies are not perfect, but you can't hide your D from life experiences because of bugs...
I sent a short reply saying something similar. Just said yes they were bug bites and I had gotten them too.
She responds right away “Oh, OK, just wanted to make sure. I washed them and put some Neosporin on them”
Just wanted to make sure? OK….
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Country, this is always hard to think that a parent can be selfish. As you said, you have created some great memories with your daughter. That's what matters the most. I guess all that can be done at this moment is to the best dads we can.
hope you feel better.
Thanks Karma. Yeah, like I said, I was just in kind of a bad mood last night. Then her text just made me feel like she sucked me in to having to reply. But oh well…
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
If so, then next time something happens to D2 inform your W about the situation.
Eg. Last winter my D6 received a cut on her face sledding. I texted that information to W so when I dropped her off there were no surprises. Also no reason to stick around and have a discussion.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
If so, then next time something happens to D2 inform your W about the situation.
Eg. Last winter my D6 received a cut on her face sledding. I texted that information to W so when I dropped her off there were no surprises. Also no reason to stick around and have a discussion.
Yeah, I was aware.
Good thought.
I guess I figured coming back with a few red bumps on her back after camping was no biggy.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
That's why we're here...to help. Share like experiences of what works and what doesn't.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Not much to report these days, just truckin' along.
Went to a great concert last night, the Deftones. They are one I listened to quite a bit back in college. This is there home town so they always put on a good show. A LOT of energy.
Now the weird part, went with the OW I have mentioned before. Well, I made it clear while back that I could only be friends, but after drinks, etc. it got awkward. We went back to her place after for another beer and watching a movie. She laid down on my legs, yada yada yada. I said it was time for me to leave and she asked me to stay. I politely declined and headed home.
The drive home I got a sick feeling of loneliness from the whole ordeal. Hard to explain.
Until the end though, good night, a lot of fun.
Have D back tonight and tomorrow night which is always nice. She just always makes me smile. I know I'm bias, but I swear she is the cutest girl ever!
It's been 2 months today since W filed for D. Not a word or action on her part since. I filed my response at the end of May, I can only assume she got it.
She's not on the "fast track" anyways, but I expect something at some point here. She needs to sh!t or get off the pot eventually.
Been probably the darkest I've been since the beginning the last week and a half or so. Only required contact for D.
A journey is like marriage. The certain way to be wrong is to think you control it. - John Steinbeck
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
I received a card from MIL thanking me for both my BDay present I sent her and for attending FIL's memorial service. For the later, she said it "meant a lot to us..."
Always...
Today, I sent her an email with pictures of D from our camping trip this weekend. I have to admit, I do feel a little weird sending them to her but not to W. W will I'm sure find out, and MIL will probably end up sending them to W, but I guess who knows for sure.
I don't want to strip MIL from these things because of W's actions, but IDK. It's a weird situation.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
