S12 called last night to say hi, and that he needed to come around in the morning to pick something up for school. He sounded down and said he had been in his room all night, so I just said remember we will all be going bowling again next Tuesday as we had a great time last week, and reminded him to ask his friend to have a sleepover next Friday (as he never does and feels left out) and we will all play board games and have snacks etc.
W brought the kids around for S12 to pick up some stuff for school but stayed in the car as she knew I have usually left by that time, but I stayed later this morning. When W pulled up out the front I was in the BACK garden and I could hear W shouting at the kids in the car, with the doors and windows shut!!!!, then again when they left I could again hear W shouting at them, after W had "beeped" to get them to hurry up!
I am having the kids on Wed night as W has to stay over for work, so she will collect them on Thur eve, I think I may be in the shower again when she comes. I actually feel a lot better when I don't see her; this darkness seems to work better for me this way. Saying that I have now received 2 mystery phone calls to my home number in the past week, and when I say hello, the line goes dead. Maybe, maybe not, but MIL has x directory number so it does not show up on caller display, and can not be traced back and I know W was there (kids told me) when I received the calls!! Plus everyone knows W has moved out, just a bit sus if you ask me. Anyway, not bothered either way now.
I/we haven't talked about the R, M or the future now for a good 5-6 weeks now, or any D talk. Hell, I haven't even asked how's work, what she has been up to etc, but she tells me. When she gave me some dates to change for the kids she explained clearly what they were for, but when I asked her for a date change and not to swap the weeks around I just said I had plans, nothing else. When W called on Sun night she was just chatting away about her friends, like she used to, I just listened really and offered a couple of pieces.
W reactions to things I have said a few weeks back and about my boundaries were just reactive defences IMHO, but hey!
Feel quite good today actually, more positive, esp as people have been saying how good I look. Plus I am feeling more positive about this detachment thing, starting to get to a point where the response is "whatever"
I really don't want to see or speak to W ATM, I kind of like leaving it a couple of weeks at a time, gives ME time.
I really am starting to believe that I am a great guy only a fool would leave, and if W thinks the grass is greener she will have quite a surprise, W will struggle to better me LOL, ohh and that she will loose out greater than I (mainly due to how much I have been learning). W can only find this out for herself, but answers are not found at the bottom of a wine glass she tries looking at each night!! I am GAL MAN, and if W wants back in at some point then W will have to show a lot to commitment to the cause, like she did to leave in the first place, then it will be my choice.
Will update later in the week.
Me - 37 W - 38 D - 14 S - 12 Together - 16 Married - 12 Bomb - April 13, 2011 W moved out - May 13, 2011
The man I became is changing back to the man I was........... and more
