Ups and downs, sandi2. That's all. Situation normal.
A couple weeks ago W was helping F with family business and drafted a plan that would include her working part-time there, in another state about 2-3 hours away. Found out from MIL, who is encouraging this, at a family event. W downplayed it, but this is how things usually develop with W. I asked how this would work, W said it was all her Ms idea and she wasn't going to do it - maybe in a couple of years, if she leaves her current job. It's not really the plan that upset me, rather the fact W didn't bring it up or discuss it with me.
Then had a great week, which included our anniversary. Really nice week, very enjoyable.
Next week, W made some make some minor financial decisions on her own - the type where we've always consulted each other in the past - without letting me know. Again, I don't really care that she did it, I would have agreed. But this is something we do together every year. I got mildly upset about it. She does the finances and it's sort of a trust thing.
Asked her about it yesterday she said "can't she just be introspective once in a while" and something about her job not being worthwhile and something about wanting to do more volunteer work but she can't (asked her why, she said "because of all her other responsibilities").
I'm sure this all looks like distancing but I really don't know what is going on inside her head. I think she's looking for meaning in her life, frustrated with her job, frustrated that the kids and other responsibilities won't let her just make a sudden change. I don't think this is her preparing to WAW.
Anyway, we went from great week to not so great pretty fast. Feeling down and just very tired.
no big deal, Sandi. AS J3B often says, the ups and downs are to be expected.
