a lot of people feel more comfortable with anger than sadness.
I think we're more used to it, maybe? But anger eats at you too...and it's NOT okay to be around, fyi.
Anyhow, you need to separate your money, period. IF she's helping you out financially,
then take care of yourself and inform her-no hiding stuff. But don't do anything that
makes it harder on you.
You know, she's not being mean to you. I mean, do you see that in her way,
she's doing her best to have an amicable break?
It may not make any difference to you but what is it that she could do
differently that would ease your pain,
if we buy into her "need" to get clean/sober, especially knowing how
young you were when you guys met?
I've done a 12 step and she WILL have to address issues with you "unless it causes injury" to someone.
If you project that you cannot handle any contact, (i.e., her "amends") she won't do it in person.
I suggest you read up on addiction so you are familiar with her journey in the event she does contact you in person
and besides, don't you want to understand this?
And see why you'd choose someone with this problem, and stay with them
and as you concede, even prefer her the way she was, with you, then healthy, apart...
how do you contact her when you have to? (Reminding her of the money to reimburse, for example)...
Have you read the Div Remedy book?
Why not?
Can't you see
how valuable insights are into relationships and how they die?
And how to keep them alive...
yes, that's what Div Busting, Div Remedy means to me.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
