Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
...as for PM, I know what you mean about 'tame' materials.

Some of the "marriage/communication seminars we attended were so elementary that we realized, "OMG, are there couples who DON'T talk about that???"


.....(YAH, we're doing fine, thanks! Where's your thread? Sorry for hijacking GB)

Good luck GB, we're rooting for you.


Well 25 & GB I was one of those OMG couples who didn't talk about "that" ... and it wasn't because I didn't try to talk with her about it. In fact there is a lot of normal healthy "that" that my wife and I have never done. My wife, the mother of my two adult children, the woman I love madly and would give my life to protect has a lot of inhibitions and body self-image issues.

I love her, but came close to divorcing her. We both changed, a lot. We now know how to let each other know that we love each other. We now have forgiven each other and have worked on rebuilding our marriage. It is no longer a SSM, but a real marriage.

25, you asked about my story, it is in the SSM section

25 is right, we are rooting for you GB (and for your wife). Marriage counseling with a sex therapist so helped my marriage as did going to a John Gottman weekend retreat. A lot of great books (including MWD's SSM) plus help on this forum helped me as well.

GB, I admire your willingness to dig in and try to figure out what is going on. You also seem to have a good understanding of your wife and what is going on. Good luck.

>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.