Piecing is hard, it is so very hard. Most go into this thinking the worst is over, they see the end in sight or worse they are at the end.
Piecing is stumbling blocks and so very hard.
When the LBS (you) is percieved to make a mistake, percieved to fall back into old patterns and habits, the WAS (spouse) becomes fearful that nothing has changed.
Old arguments come to the forefront.
I commend you on the 180's. You owe it to yourself to be honest with yourself, as I am not asking you here to answer, have you slipped back into old patterns at all? Have you dropped anything because you achieved your goal of not getting a divorce?
That is a grave mistake, if you have.
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How can she tell me she's happy with me one day and then a few days later tell me she can't love my like a real W can?
Well, there is a difference between being happy with someone and loving someone...but that is not what you mean.
One day she told you she loved you, the other she told you she couldn't love you like a real wife can.
I cannot mind read your wife.
I'll offer the two things that come to my mind.
First, she is confusing the addition-like love attraction of the affair with lasting love of a couple/companionship.
Or she is offering up arguments why this isn't working out, because of that whole fear of hers that nothing has changed.
Piecing isn't easy by any means. It is constant, I shall be peicing until the day I die, if I do it right. That is my goal, to always be working at my relationship with my wife.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
