well update were not completely back together but doing better i think Ive talked her out of going thru with the divorce and trying to work on it before the divorce is final. she says she thinks Ive changed and has even admitted her faults and said she hasn't fully forgiven me for the affair. she still says she thinks the divorce will be better that there will be no pressure and that if i continue to change and she see's it then she will work more on the marriage, who knows.
bond she initinated a relationship talk and said we needed to build a friendship back before a serious relationship would have a chance how do i do that without becoming a just a friend
How did you do it when you were dating? When she says she wants to build a friendship with you, she actually means that she wants to rebuild trust between the two of you. Talk to her like you would a girl you were interested in for the first time. Then listen. Really listen to what she says.
Hear the important things. Flirt a little, but not too much. Get some of your old swagger back and treat her with respect with no expectations.
Again, imagine her as someone totally new. What did you do when you were interested in someone? You listen, see what they like and take care of their needs for that.
Every now and then lightly touch her arm and give her non-sexual touch. A touch that shows you care as only a H does. Again, non-sexual so she feels safe and can be herself.
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