OK... 81 Days

[Denver_2010]

Oh Denver, I believe


you're really about to enter the


"Piecing" zone...SO read up on it...it's not easy and some say it's the hardest part

Wow 25. That is REALLY Optimistic. Even I wasn't thinking that quite yet. Remember, I heard the same things back in March. However, I will say that at least my W seems to be proceeding with a little more caution that she was back then. Maybe that's a good sign.

I am proceeding with much caution right now and keeping the boundary that I have set very much in place.

I really hope that you are right though 25.

it's hard, but your goal is officially possible now...whether you want it or not...

also, your w is not off base in saying a move in next week is too soon.

I agree that her moving back in next week would be too soon. I'm not even sure where she got that. I certainly hadn't mentioned it. I'm not even 100% positive that this is what I want right now. I have to know that I can get over everything that has happened in the past several weeks. I'm feeling better about it and know that I want to be able to get over it, but it is still there lingering in my head.

Allow me a tiny quibble Denver, okay?

I thought your SS' observation at the coffee place was in fact TRUE

just b/c you did something wrong in the past does NOT make you guilty today

and I worry about undermining his perspective when he was spot on, in truth...ya know?


I mean, he saw the truth about you NOT flirting or doing anything wrong...and then he spoke up for you

and then got shot down-

all b/c you wanted to validate your w, who is

still living in the past and still holding grudges...

Not fair to him (or you) AND not "real data" about the Denver of [i]today
[/i]

but yes, SS was correct, you did nothing wrong that day
nor did HE

I agree. I actually did tell him that her anger was based on stuff that I had done in the past. I was torn on this though bc I didn't do anything wrong. I also know that W is extremely sensitive to SS blaming her for EVERYTHING recently. And I do want to validate her legitimate issues with me.

And since when do you ask for permission to 'quibble' with me??

but otherwise, and overall,


big picture stuff----

YES, this is good news! ...regardless of what you decide,

it's nice

not being in "stuckville", isn't it?

Congrats!.......

just think how you felt a few weeks ago


and say a big THANK YOU to the big Guy upstairs...at one point I believe you thought only

a miracle would help....well....

Again 25, I LOVE the optimism. But I guess that I am not quite there. I'm certainly not in stuckville as I feel a weird sense of empowerment ever since the OM on the toilet event, and since I laid out my boundary very clearly. But I don't feel out of the woods yet at all. I do feel tons better than I did a few weeks ago though.

you are doing wonderfully and resiliently well

and it's threads like yours and 9's and 2steps, FaithAK and many from my past here


who all remind me of what great partners men can be, how strong yet fragile their hearts are, how deep their loyalties,

Thanks 25. It means a lot to hear you say that. And yes, some of us men are capable of being half way decent!

[quote=25yearsmlcJust so I know I've said it here, THANK GOD...for all of "this" [/quote]

Working on this as well.

Denver