I don't think it mattered. You obviously still feel very connected to her and she to you. You were speaking from the heart, so drop any thought of guilt.
Whenever I see my former Mother-in-law, it is apparent that there are still feels of affection. She isn't mad at me or anything but certainly sorry that things happened as they did. I don't call them, it is just easier that way. I don't really want to know what they think of his new wife. No need to rehash all of it.
When we get together at kid functions, it is nice to catch up. Give each other hugs and move on.
big hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory