I know what you mean about a book "getting to the good part" but usually they have a process
You kind of have to go with it.
I'm sure you're both looking forward to the assignment and that happy feeling (been there, done that and it IS fun--kids make it crazy fun when they're young, not so much in high school when they think it's the end of the world).
My question is, since you know you have to build a stable strong m that doesn't break at stress, and but for this minor quibble, you guys have not had a lot of experience in it.
On the contrary, you guys mostly fight in a destructive way (I know this "fight" was progress & I'm not dissing it)
I'm saying you have to build on that for a LOT longer....seriously
before discussing the open stuff.
I just don't get why one weekend of only a little fighting...and weird communication triggers yet another discussion about something you are SO NOT ready for...
(btw she cannot get mad about ml and though she apparently wasn't really mad about it,
the fact that you would worry that you had mistakenly FORCED yourself upon her....is SAD)
my point is, just focus on the marriage you have NOW and see what you feel like in a year.
Is it HER that brings this stuff up all the time? Doesn't SHE know you two are on shifting ground and trying to find a solid place to stabilize FIRST?
The more experience you two have together that is healthy and loving and conflict resolving,
the stronger you become. IT's not something to risk losing any time soon.
Why not focus on building more weekends like you just had,
instead of discussing how to possibly throw it all away?
As my Army class leader once said, "Saw the wood in front of you, before you ask for more." Make sense?
Glad you had a good weekend though.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
