"Am I supposed to be aloof and distant, living my own life and ignoring hers? Or do I keep on being a steady nice guy, living my changes, GAL, letting her see what a new life would be like?"

Right there with you, AC. Lately I am thinking this would be easier if my W were not in the same house; I feel like I have to monitor everything I do and say. And the "so close, yet so far away" feeling is very draining, not to mention that I no longer really look forward to going home.

The answer probably lies somewhere in the middle.

H 56
W 48
D27,S21
SS25
SS22 Severely autistic
M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs.
"I've never loved you" 3/7/2011
Separated 8/7/2011
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