Log entry Well it feels good to know that I went a whole weekend without feeling like I needed to log an entry.
Friday was nice I continued giving her that positive reassurance I have been giving her lately. She wore a beautiful dress, and we went out to dinner. We each had 2 drinks and had planned to go to checkout the local bar scene. Once outside the first bar she changed her mind and decided she wanted ice cream and to go home. She kept apologizing for "spoiling" the night but I kept insisting it was no problem. At the same time we were very flirty all night. Once home there was a lot of heavy touching and cuddling, 3 times she reminded me it was that time. All three times I gracefully backed off and told her it was no problem. It really wasn't. I completely wanted to respect her wishes. The third time she made a move and we ml.
The next morning everything started well. I offered to go get us some coffee. She did mention that at first she wasn't in the mood last night. Worried that she might accuse me of forcing her again, I immediately apologized and told her it was not my intention at all to force her. She said she understood, and that she did it willfully.
I took a long shower, and by the time I was done she said she no longer wanted coffee. I could tell she was visibly upset. She took about an hour nap, and afterwards was still mad. She saw me get my things ready to go to my weekly tournament and then got more upset, because I made plans without her. I tried explaining that I had tried, but she didn't seem interested in any of it. Well we had what you could call a low intensity argument. In it I tried to find out why she was so upset, yet she wouldnt tell me why. Finally she confessed that she wanted me to go get coffee so she could make me my favorite pan cakes while I was gone. Since I had ruined her surprise she was upset at me.
Knowing she was upset for a silly reason she tried to get mad at me for anything else. Very silly yes I know. Yet I was actully a little touched, I apologized for ruining her plans, but also let her know that it was not fair for her to get upset over that. I told her it should be punishment enough that my extra long shower kept me from enjoying her delicious pancakes. Before anyone misreads this incident I would like to point out that it was very minor, and besides her being mildly upset at me we both handled it very well. I think it should be a model of how we handle conflict from now on.
I then left to play in my tournament where I got 2nd place and took a prize home, finally!!! Later that night we had dinner and started watching a new show on DVD.
Sunday was nice too. I went and got us coffee, we discussed passionate marriage, we ran errands together, and started packing, and looking for rentals in our new assignment. A very good day indeed.
We discussed passionate marriage on Friday and Sunday, covering one chapter each day. She has been mostly receptive to it, and we have had some wonderful discussions about the state of our R, what we can do to fix it, and even discussed how an open marriage will look like. I can sense she may be having some doubts, especially when it comes to letting me go. There was even an instance when she said "IF we decide to have an open marriage" I found this comment interesting since before she seemed adamant that it was not optional. While I do admit I would prefer it closed, I think we could make it work, IF and only IF, we become very strong first.
Passionat Marriage (PM) has been a tough read I have to admit, but we have gotten a lot out of it. My only concern is that he devotes the first 2 Ch to telling you how screwed up your R is. The 3rd Ch which we will discuss today focuses on telling you that other people managed to fix their problems. What me and her are desperate to know now is how to fix things!!! He better get there soon. .
Overall one of the best weekends in months, were starting to have more of these and that is good. I'm even happy we had that little issue on Saturday since it showed that we can resolve fights in positive ways. I can't complain I'm grinning ear to ear.
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