Why must you be so specific in your apology? Why not own that you should have handled stress better, not been so critical and maybe specifically mention the porn and say that it had nothing to do with her attractiveness (so you are inserting a compliment into the letter while owning a piece of bad behavior that won't cost you custody).
Any physical outburst will hurt you in custody matters. Talk to your L BEFORE sending this but let your L know you'd love a recon, ideally.
Just mo.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Since you hold her responsible for zero problems in the m, and that means you lost your temper irrationally for no reason, along with "NEVER" helping her out "unless forced" and a lot of other "all or nothing" comments, I would guess it's a memory. And a bit of a distorted one too...
but kudos for a brave look at your behavior.
Just mo.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I received your letter last night. That was so sweet and I know it wasn't easy for you to write. Brian you can't take all the blame, I was there too. It really touch my heart that you took the time and sent that to me. I hope you have a great weekend.
I mailed a straight-forward letter to my wife yesterday (so, she'll probably get it on Monday) just mentioning my regrets over porn (the only specific thing in the letter), how I should've been more honest instead of being caught up in porn, how I should've handled stress better, should've learned how to listen, express, handle stress better, treated my wife more as an equal, and how I should have owned my decisions, even the wrong ones.
I hand-wrote it, and as 25 suggested, kept the specifics to a minimum. I ended the letter with: "If I had to do it all again, I would do it all so differently."
It might still be too early to tell (it's been 5-days), but I don't think, or was expecting, the letter I sent my wife made a difference. Refer to my latest post in my main thread for more fun facts.
