LP - When I broke the darkness, I actually thought of you and Nine. But, I was concerned about S17 and there were other things to discuss.
I think STBX actually does love OM - but not as deeply as she loves me. But as I mentioned before, she needed to experience life with him. Even if he had never separated, she would have always wondered what it would be like, so she would have never been fully present in our marriage. So....being with him was a needed step in her life. She will either be with him for a long time (maybe forever) or she could one day realize he's not her dream man after all. Then, and only then, she MIGHT come to me. Then I will have to decide what is best for me.
The biggest issue I have is fully accepting that and truly living my life without waiting for that day to come.
