An end to hostilities?

[whitneypinch]

Hello,

My XW has been friendlier with me lately. Actually she has been friendly since the day she left.
I struggle pretty badly with this. So many times I feel so betrayed and her being nice to me makes it worse. It's like the situation is great for her.

We have hung out as a family but were recently told by a family therapist that that is causing confusion with our daughter. So we stopped.

I don't initiate contact with my W anymore but tend to get sucked back in when she contacts me.
Usually she contacts me every few days over a kid issues. She also contacts me after every great event that I do with my kids. I actually asked her to stop that recently. I asked her to talk to the kids when they are with her if she wants to find out how the event went.

This whole friendship thing is very difficult. It is so hard not to have expectations. It's so hard not to initiate relationship talk.

I am debating whether to continue or tell her to not contact me unless absolutely necessary.
I hear what you all say about being friends with your x to benefit the children. The situation with my children is great and my X and I don't have any issues with that.