Legit DBing? or is this just calm before storm?

[MommaDucki]

Was all ready to go to bed wen H got on phone with OW again...

so between the a/c and typing, background noise is drowned out, so here I am again...

Picking up where I think I left off?...

It's Sept '10, N8 and N6 are in school again (first year for N6), work was going well, sister is in D proceedings finally, brother is all moved out, IC still going well, but I was still unhappy...


I missed the city H and I had lived in...I missed the atmosphere, missed the people, the culture, the general attitude. Wanted D3 growing up there, but felt I had to ride this thing out for a bit longer...

Oct moved in, and H had finished up his west coast stuff and passed through for a two day visit with D3. I didn't make any special arrangements to get out of work to see him. He went and got D3 from my parents house, hung out with her. When I was off work, went and watched a ball game at a bar with H and his team driver (who's also H's best friend).

Late Oct, I'd gotten severely burned at work and was sent to ER. Also, found out from store owner that he'd hired on a new permanent GM (general manager) who would be taking oover effective nov 1.

Nov rolled in, and mid nov, h was again passing through and stopped in for a visit.

Over half my staff dd not get along wth new GM and most of them quit or were fired by new GM. I was put in charge of hiring new staff members. End of Nov rolled in, first paycheck for new staff...no paychecks for them, even though I;d submitted them to payroll....

First real run in that I had with new GM.

Worked it out so those who didn't get paid would have their pay carry over to new pay period.

Also, got bill from ER trip previous month...turns out owner never registered us with workmen;s comp and I ended up being billed instead...begin my battle with that.

First payday of dec rolls in, still no pay for new employees...heated argument with GM, and he ends convo by saying, " You just want everything to go your way, and I just don't pay new employees for their first two weeks of work. You want it your way, I want it mine, so I feel we just need to go our separate ways." End job...

so, christmas comes and goes...thankfully, with the decent salary I was making, I'd had more than enough put into savings that I was more than fine for all my bills for awhile.

All this time up till mid dec...since june...H's still been pestering me about us working on M....I was still hopeful to work on M and have us successfully back together, but knew H was still nowhere near the place I felt comfortable with, so I still resisted.

End of dec comes around, and I;m actually contacted with a job offer back in H's city. talk to H about it, and all of a sudden, he's not so interested in me coming down.

Friend and his gf are still living at H's place...it's not going well...neither of them have jobs, they're both living there rent/board free at H's expense, and H's contracted job had ended early dec and he was again out of wrk...

Enter new year...

Sum up 2010? sucked kinda...lol

Sister had her D finalized mid nov....didn't really owrk to her favor the way she wanted....sister had her car repoed, parents felt they should buy her a new vehicle, and they did, then started carging us both higher rent for higher utility bills, etc...(i felt was fair to an extent). Had pretty much stopped seeing any of my friends becase my sister worked mostly nights and wasn't getting home till 2 or 3 in the morning...my mom was always wanting my help in getting the kids to bed every night due to her health probs...she was wiped out by dinner time most days.

So, it's jan, i get new job, really not what I want at all, but it;s a job...unsteady hours, not making enough to pay my bills, looking around for another job...

found out from h aout OW3 who was yet another OW he claimed he was taking advantage of...had her move in late dec (hmmm..same time he seemed to have a change of heart about the M).

Feb rolls around and I get my taxes done...usually H has filed his before me, and I've not thought twice about any of it, but this year, I filed before him...the way i was told I legally have to file...."Married filing separately" . Apparently H's been filing single for the past couple of years....

Since I'd filed first, he got pissed at me for causing him to get audited because of his filing status for '08, '09, and now '10...lol

H played victim again by stating bad things always happen taht are caused by other people, even though it's not really their faults.

Says he knows I was just doing what was legal and right, but he;s still mad, because now he;s audited and stuck paper filing and waiting even longer for his return (to which it turns out he wasn't going to get anything back for overpayment in previous years).

Blames me for not knowing how he;s going to come up with rent for march. OW3 had already left him as well...and friend and gf had moved out as well into their own place finally.

So, It's now March...sister got married, went very well, other sister's XH had his new baby and started shunning all visits with his kids. Stopped paying his child support, dropped his job, which dropped insurance on his kids...my sister didn't know, had taken N8 to doctor, and was now being sued for non-payment.

My past ER bill is now with a collections company and I;m still stuck in litigations with company trying to get it paid. It's all in court system as of today...long process...

Still unstable hours at my job, but now my car is paid off in full. get title and whatnot taken care of.

April rolls around, easter came and went...was good...and the day after easter, H and I sat down and talked about me moving down here.

Planned it for mid-may...I had $$ still sitting in savings that I would not touch...it was my moving money...so I had my own money for apt once here, and deposits for utlities and such...

total was $1200...

So, move was planned in 3 weeks time...told my family, started making my arrangements, had several phone interviews with potential jobs, had car checked out to be sure it would make it, felt I was really going to be ok...had informed my friends i was still in contact with back here of our upcoming move....so many were so excited...none of them had seen D3 since she was a baby.

Was driving here, and car hit a really, i mean REALLY deep pothole that bottomed out my car and pulled off the entire exhaust system. With the muffler and two catalytic converters ripped off, I was stuck...lol

Talked about it a few posts ago, but this happened on a sunday...was in the middle of nowhere about 450 miles from H's city, thankfully on an interstate, so I got off at biggest nearest exit I could and was stuck. Checked into hotel for night with D3, and felt my world collapse.


Thought i had everything planned just right...Had 3 interviews lined up, all of which I'd previously had phone interviews with for tuesday...had 4 apartment showings for today...this monday that I;m stuck in middle of nowhere, and now all my money is possibly getting spent...

total for car was only $950, but i still had to wait till tuesday before the part came in, and didn't get my car back till late tuesday afternoon....

Tried rescheduling interviews, and they didn't want to wait...all three had other people they were interested in, but wanted to give me my chance as well, and I was passed up for all 3!!!

With all my deposit money gone for apt, I didn't know where to go...called some of my friends, and really, just due to their own circumstances, no one was really able to offer me a place...

no one except H.

H had told me 3 days before I left that there was a girl he was talking to...OW4 and he were not having PA, just EA...

and now here I sit...working odd housekeeping jobs, and saving every penny of it...

H has no job...his mom has been paying his ills over past several months...and if you've been reading up till now, you kinda kow the rest....

Not wanting to listen to H on phone anymore, so I'm going to go sit on patio with a boook and read for awhile...