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[Punktmann]

Yellow Rose, bless you for being kind and patient, allowing him to have his visits in your home, you are too sweet.

I'm not for one second going to give you grief for that. Like another Graceful person here, it says a lot about what kind of person you are to support that.

He shared with me that he will have to pay CS and probably maintenance. The half of military retirement pay is a given.
He was a little upset how much he will have to pay his L. Wait till he finds out my L is asking the judge to have him pay for mine too. It doesn't mean that he will have to pay but it is thrown out there too.

Such is life in MLC...

Yellow Rose, Once in a great while I am able to speak about something I actually know about.


I DO know that it's a LOT easier to let the divorce attorneys handle all of that.

You are paying them for that anyway, ( a lot, lot, lot....) might as well let them handle it and save you the headache with your STBX.

So Easter he calls and asked to come over and see D and when the kids left we could talk. I told him that was fine but it was Easter and I wasn't going to stand for any chaos or arguments.

We all had a good day. When the kids left we went over everything. He doesn't want anything but his tools, his old bronco and his truck. So what was all the fuss about?? He is mad that I am in control.

Good for you,
Good for you,
Good for you,

Yeah, they hate that whole "I'm not in control thing...")

Anyway, we talked for a while and he said that he still has alot of issues and that maybe in the future we could try again.
I told him that time would tell but this D is something I have to do for myself to heal. He said he understood and then we both cried.

Good for you!

Heal yourself. Heal the fambly interactions that your children are involved in.

Then look towards the damaged world he has made.

God bless you,

Best,

Punkt.