My husband (either MLC or WAH)left me in December 2010 (you can see previous thread, Australian husband WAW or MLC?) and I could really use some advice. I have had to have three or four R talks to address financial issues (I have been thre breadwinner in our family and one of the main reasons that he left were due to some financial issues we have had) because he still feels that I should support him.
I started doing DR/DB in December 2010 and have a lot to show for it-55 lbs weight loss since last July, joined a soccer league in February in Atlanta, have become a better mother, more PMA, better financial manager (just completed Dave Ramsey program) and have made a point not to shout out my changes or plead. However-last R talk was three weeks ago. He is planning on renewing his lease as of July 5th. He admits that my changes are mind blowing but does not want to take the chance of moving home and sleeping on the couch hoping that these changes are for real. However, he does not want to file for D "right now" and hopes that if we do moce forward with it, that I will not retaliate to not getting what I want (him moving home) by hiring an attorney so that this gets ugly.
I think there is another woman and I think that is why I am making so little progress. I have gone completely dark and other than child exchange, I do not initiate any contact. He is the one initiating contact now and calls over silly things but I don't know what else to do. I am still working on fitness, I am happy now, reaching out to friends and talking about things other than my H but because of our finances (I am supporting all of the things he left behind-house, kids, babysitters, etc-and now he wants a "little bit of support") that I am almost ready to pull the big LRT and file for divorce right now. It is not out of anger-I am so detached right now that I am scared. My kids are 3 and 1, I am still working a full time job and although our conversations are light and good during child exchange (and I caught him checking me out last weekend before I left for Chicago) we don't seem to be making any progress.
Any advice from anyone??? I don't know what more to do other than to focus on me and the kids (no change there). In 6 months, shouldn't I be seeing other things? Am I kidding myself that this is really working???
Could really use some help-I am running out of ideas.
