Thank you for your support. I am sorry your H said these things to you as well. One of my prior posts that was held for moderation just came up in my thread before yours. It sheds a little light on one of my ex-P's ongoing issues...I'm not so sure this is just a MLC.
To tell you a little about my ex-P's childhood: it was very privileged, but he has had issues with his parents. These issues surround his mother's unusual coldness (he could never remember EVER being hugged by her or receiving any physical affection), and his dad's remoteness. His dad is the type who won't see you for a year, and then when you come to visit, he will not even acknowledge you're in the house until its time to leave. His relationship with his parents is very formal and unloving.
He said he felt "defective" like maybe he wasn't capable of deep love. Wanting to answer this question was part of what motivated him to seek out OW...He said he had to know whether the problem was some kind of "lack" on his part or whether it was our relationship.
These words were so scary for me to hear...he always seemed to love me very, very much. He really did.
As for my situation, my heart just hurts so much, I can't imagine it getting any better. I am just so distraught and hopeless. I miss him so much. I had no idea how empty he felt. His behavior always seemed incredibly devoted and loving.
Me: 35 Him: 43 Together: 19 1/2 years 1st Bomb (IDLYAM): March 2011 2nd Bomb (OW): April 2011 He abandons home/bills/everything: May 2011 He's bought a new house for OW: September 2011
