When your S is truly unhappy within themselves there is little one can do.
I've always been the best H I could be. I still am. I vent here at times but at home I'm the person my W needs me to be. And I'm not a victim, I choose to stay. But that does not mean I'm not treated poolly.
My thread? No more for me. There is nothing anyone can help me with. I know what needs to be done. I don't say that to sound like a "know it all". I just know that the only person that can help me is me.
And as far as this board, I do have an issue with this new concept that everyone is wrong and everyone is right.
This is not a utopian world.
There is right and wrong in relationships.
There are victimizers and victims.
I look back and see how I treated my W and have no regrets.
If you knew me 25, you would not see the person you envision.
I am allowed to be angry.
And I know right from wrong. And I am allowed to point it out if I am being disrespected.
It's not ALWAYS about being happy or being right.
Denver caught his W with OM. She lied. She cheated. And she did it behind his back. And the only reason he knows is she got caught. Had she not been caught, he may have stayed another night. And it angered me.
Sometimes to been HAPPY, we need to point out what's RIGHT.
Just my opinion.
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
