Yes Sandi, very helpful.

My 180's

stopped emailing/texting (unless it is for a real reason)
making plans with friends.
no begging or pleading.
doing more on my own with the kids.
not appearing sad or depressed at home.
Working on avoiding the R talks.....this one has been difficult but working hard on it. Some times I get the urge to have a R chat. Have found distracting myself has worked in avoiding this. Sometimes I fail....horrible.