STILL here...even after I quit.

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BTM:

I am soooooo sorry to hear about all your pain and there is Really NOTHING I can say to make it go away. I hope that you are not one of those people that are doomed to be attached to somebody that has MOVED on. I know somebody in my town here that is in that sich 10 years later.

HE wont date, he pines for his ex ( who he mistreated badly) and hopes he gets another chance while his life passes him by.

I dont want to see that happen to you BTM. You MUST start moving forward and GAL. Some of the things that you mentioned really have me concerned. If she KNOWS that you are still in pain, then she knows she has you as PLAN B no matter what happens with OM. YOU have to move forward man. I know how much this hurts, IT HURTS me too with my W and I dont think I love her any less than you love your wife but when the writing is on the wall, you have to read it.

Rick Kehoe would also want you to move on. ( Did you get that referenc my fellow Canadian). And as for the touching of her side of the bed, YOU HAVE TO STOP THAT!!! Things like that keep you stuck. I balance off so many I love you's in my head to my W with an equal amount of I hate what you have done to our family and less of both of those btw as the days go by.

Sundays are tough? Then find something on Sundays that will take your mind off this stuff. You are NOT going to heal otherwise BTM.

The leaf's are spinning their wheels for years, please dont be a Harold Ballard and be the architect of your own demise.

Start today, Drop that effen rope for real and start GAL for REAL. Dont look back. IF and ONLY IF she ends her OM thing and decides to join you can you cross that bridge.

LIFE IS TOO SHORT.

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