Your posts have touched me as well. I usually hang out on the MLC board but come over here to read posts as well.
Your P's actions certainly sound very familiar.
The ow in this case sounds very fishy. There's something just not right about how all this is working out for your P. I don't think it sounds normal at all. Yes, ow/om are generally insecure about the LBS, but this one is absolutely freakish in her demands. IMO, this one sounds like a predator and I would not be surprised in the least that she has pulled this scam before on some unsuspecting mark. Your P is in a very precarious state of mind right now and is ripe for the picking. She's feeding him a line and he's swallowing hook, line, and sinker.
Sweetie, believe me, I know how much this hurts. My H said many of the same things your P has said to you. I admire how well you handled it.
It's his fantasy that is driving his train now. The derailment won't be pretty for him. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do or should do about it. It has to play itself out. You did not break your P, and you can't fix him. You can however, work on yourself. As these very wise women have told you this does get better. You are stronger than you think, in fact, you've have shown great strength already.
Can you tell us a little about your P's childhood? What was that like for him? This may give us some insight to what is going on now.
Believe me, I'm not trying to get you to focus on either P or ow, but I have found it helpful to me to try and understand why this happened, not as an excuse for it, but as an explanation.
That helped me be able to turn my focus to where it should be, myself and my journey.
