I think you are handling it well. Sounds as if your h is completely disconnected from his emotions, and has been for a long time. Sometimes people close down [especially men??] in order to cope. I am not defending his behaviour btw, just reminding you in a weird way it isn't personal. Just out of hospital and feeling a bit traumatized, so no more for now, except to say hang in there. It comes right for us eventually if we are able to keep a positive mental attitude. Yes, bad days, yes it isn't 'fair' but we just have to keep our integrity and plod on to get through it all.

At least you have no immediate money worries which is good.