New - HELP! Tried the 180/Last Resort & Failed

[25yearsmlc]

alone


listen to Sandi...(Great post btw)

You are doing VERY well for the situation and honestly, for your age/backstory, better than 90% of the people here.


I love how you've owned your part


I hate how he doesn't own his


and how vulnerable you feel.

As a L, I've had women clients tell me their fears of being out on the streets...including a physician who worked part time so she could be at home with her kids.


Her h left her for younger woman and she was bereft.


I recall wondering how SHE could fear poverty. But she did.




Rational or not, we all fear it. Once we chop our situation into pieces we can manage,

we can manage.



Please remember how much life you have ahead of you and


how it's going to be a lot better within a year or two. NOT to say "look at the bright side" but honestly, meeting women at my old job who were being left after 30+ years of m

and

had NO outside job skills, who'd moved every 2-4 years and raised kids on their own (I'm mostly thinking of military wives...)

They saw only old age, alone, ahead of them. It was heartbreaking and



it pained me. But of the ones who stayed in touch with me later, ALL were happy and leading fulfilling lives...every one of them.


You will too. Keep at it and let us know what's up please. And

In the words of the great philosopher and essayist,




Christopher Robin...

(yes, THAT Christopher Robin, from Winnie the Pooh)


You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.