The best. When he found out he was very heart that we split up.
Originally Posted By: FaithnAK
What are you willing to hear?
What am I willing hear or what is she willing to hear? Me? I want to hear nothing. I don’t want to know what she is doing or who she is doing it with. I just want to move on and heal. I want peace.
Originally Posted By: FaithnAK
You are done...I get that, but "what if" she comes back and pleads to be with you? What's your view. This is more for others than it is for you Friend. If you are "happy" who are you to hold it over her mistakes? No open relationship..."I will not be in an open marriage" but if she is willing to EVER meet this...what would you do?
Ok this is one hell of a question and I am not sure I am ready to answer it. There is a running bet among some very close friends of mine, including a several BITS about this. What will I do when she wants back in? This is also something my friend was trying to get me ready for when we spoke the other night. He is convinced.
IMO no one can know this and I mean no one. People have their opinions and pretty much everyone has the same one except me. I don’t it is healthy for me to wonder what I would do or to play out a scenario in my head of her coming back. It keeps me stuck. In my mind the damage has been done and therefore it is time to move on.
As you said though, for the benefit of others what will I do if she pleads for another chance?
I have no idea. I know what my initial reaction would probably be.
Why? Why should I? Why do you think you can take my soul and heart rip it out of my chest and then decide you would like another go at it? How could I trust you ever again? Do you understand? Do you have any idea what you did to me? What you did to my D? What you did to our lives? Where is the individual accountability? After months and months or trying why, because the grass is not greener because now you have decided that we were worth it.
It is not that I would hold it over her head AK, it is that the same effort she put into leaving would have to be the same effort she would have to put into rebuilding what she broke. It would be awfully presumptuous of her to think a simple “I am sorry” would do the trick. In actuality we did not have an open M. To the best of my knowledge she started any R after the D, mater of fact a month or more after the D. In reality I have no reason to judge her. The part that bothers me is the hanging on, the keeping me on a string and the EA she had been having. Like I said it is the who more than the what.
In short, I have no freaking idea since it is a scenario I doubt will ever happen I don’t really think much about it.
In some ways I think the “piecing” aspect of all of this is the hardest part. I just don’t know. Almost seems like starting a new R would be much easier than going back to the old one. If we were still M and the PA had not happened then my answer is simple. Over, Under, or Through it for as long as it takes. Now? Why?
