Legit DBing? or is this just calm before storm?

[25yearsmlc]

So, H dropped friend off, stopped in to have a drink, continued drinking and passed out? Finally woke up about the time of my last post and came home. In total, was gone for 16 hours?!?!?! He didn't see why I was bothered. Wasn't bothered he was gone at all...was bothered he took my car and I didn't know where it was.

Really -outrageous behavior on his end, and confusing behavior on yours...



Maybe over thinking, maybe over analyzing, but the simplest way I feel about it is this....

Borrowed someone else's car, gone for 16 hours with it...I feel it's justified for owner of car to be upset when it was supposed to be a short amount of time for the use of car.

THIS IS OBVIOUS TO NORMAL PEOPLE...don't over think it or 2nd guess so much



Still not 100% copnvinced about H's story....he claims he doesn't lie these days, but when there's a history of it, it's hard to learn to trust again.

What story? HE GOT DRUNK B/C HE HAD SOME WHEELS...WHO KNOWS WHO HE VISITED??

In listening to his story, I might be reading into what I feel are holes in his story.

UM yeah...

I was bothered because I was tired, wanted to sleep, had to work today, D3 kept waking up and asking for daddy, cat kept meowing out calling for him, and cat doing that was waking up D3 as well. So, I had a rough night and a very long day at work. Took a nap when I got home while H watched D3. About to go to bed again as well.

Just overall bothered by the whole thing. H's in his bedrom right now chatting with OW on the pc right now. After the night we had, I told him I was going to bed, and he hopped right on to chat with her.

His actions towards me are still leaning towards very friendly and social, but I know that since he's still talking to OW, even if just chatting on pc, that we're not really at that place yet, but I'm still hopeful.


How are you seeing this "hopeful" stuff? His ACTIONS? NO THEY ARE NOT INCONSISTENT with his words. He said he wants a divorce WHEN you get there and now you are there. HE said he wants to be "Friends" and that's it. He has OW, whom he speaks to in front of you or with your obvious knowledge. He's treating you with contempt/disrespect. I am so sorry but I cannot find where...there's a move toward reconciliation?

I'm so sorry

but I don't see it at all...... True, He isn't 100% detached/nasty to you but you also DO provide somethings....

MAYBE offering you temporary space means seeing his kid more

AND he has a (your) car AND a maid (you clean up after yourself and I'd bet you do some of his laundry/cooking?)

But remember,


he SAID he wants to divorce you---so WHY'D YOU MOVE BACK? That's the mystery to me.

Is it so wrong of me to keep up this small glimmer of hope?

IT's Not wrong to keep a glimmer of hope, it's wrong to be a doormat.

It's not wrong to keep a glimmer of hope, it's wrong to let it paralyze you.



He says he wants a div, he never followed you, he talks to OW in FRONT of you AFTER taking your car, lying to you and drinking booze in it so he could have wrecked it too. And he'd say, "sure hope u have insurance"....


and it's NOT working


and THAT means You need to see things as they are,
He says he wants a div, he never followed you, he talks to OW in FRONT of you AFTER taking your car, lying to you and drinking booze in it so he could have wrecked it too. And he'd say, "sure hope u have insurance"....


Just b/c a guy isn't 100% prick doesn't make him Mr. Right

and in my book


he's mistreating you in a glaring way


Maybe his charm (or your co-dep) is blinding you. IDK but he's NOT treating you like he would treat even a friend, imo


and it's just mo


sorry you are here