the issue is, i am doing everything for her. she has no license right now as the court took it away first for not paying a fine but now its gone until she pays up her arrears on child support from the last year.
I allow her to see the kids at my house as if she doesnt she might only ever see D7, as the boys want nothing to do with OM.
I have held everything together for the last year + without money or help from her. I have nothing extra. My kids have nothing extra. I barely cover all the bills and feed my family. She expects me to maintain this. She expects me to continue living in a house she wanted and we only got cause of her getting a job.
Everything is already settled legally between us. The divorce only finalizes our marriage to each other. At the end of 30 days, i stop letting her have her visits at my home, i stop driving her to see the kids. She will be on her own.
I will be listing the house for sale, and moving to something smaller and more affordable. I have prepared my children for this move, and i will be staying in the same town so they will stay in the same school and keep the same friends.
It has just been too much on me and on my family. If it wasnt for me, she would never see all the kids, never see her mom or even her grandmother. I make the plans and get her to the events. she does absolutly nothing.
She doesnt even show me respect or treat me with dignity. Before i went away on my business trip, i called her house to tell her what had to be done, re: schedule s13 for highschool, where the medical insurance cards were, and when and where soccer practises etc. and the OM told me to F off, never to call his house as its his phone and to only call her on the cell phone. Her response to that was, OM was having a bad day.
so, i have taken everything away from her already. She doesnt own the home, she doesnt have a license, I have her car as it got repossessed from her, and right now she still doesnt have a job. she is fine with that it seems.
I honestly feel that she isnt keeping the kids away from OM while she is making her decision. I think the kids were getting inthe way for OM so she gets to make it look like she is thinking about the offer, and appeasing me when really, she is keeping the stress of 4 kids away from OM.
