The things I wrote made me mad at h all over again
But I also stopped reading b/c it's NOT helpful to feel that way. I may even toss the journals...
But the thing is,
Just b/c I felt the things to be true then, doesn't 1) make them true and 2)
does not mean I always believe it.
I KNOW for sure some of what I felt then, is untrue. I believed it THEN, and don't now.
Hope that helps.
When she revises the marital history TOO much
You can say "Wow, I don't recall it that way, but I'm sorry you feel hurt"...
but if she's saying stuff that might be partly true,
you say "if I had it to do over, I'd do things differently"....
she cannot argue either of these replies and yet you are not being a doormat OR argumentative
BTW, I think it's interesting that she's bringing stuff like this up now.
Kind of good b/c it means to me, she's not indifferent and she is trying to justify her choice....so don't shut out her inner voice with your parental one.
let her figure this out.
Let her SEE that m to you from this day forward, would be better!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
