Positively moving forward

[awest1217]

I need some advice from the parents out there. This thing with XBIL is really bad and for me gets worse all the time. It is bringing up some memories and feelings that I had pushed away and hid a long time ago when it came to XH.

Here is my issue. XH is supposed to watch S next week when I am at school for my one week class. Since everything has happened, he has agreed that my mom should watch S at least for Monday and Tuesday, but as this continues I am having more and more concerns about S going over there at all. I know that I can't stop visitation and don't want to, but I am honestly worried about S's psychological well-being. He is very sensitive and I don't want him hurt by this.

I also have the issues with XH that I feel need to be addressed because some do directly relate to S and being a good role model for S.

How do I talk to XH about this without starting a fight? I want to voice my concerns and some of them are about XH. Should I not say anything at all to XH? Do I just keep things about S and what I want S to see and hear and not talk about my other feelings?

I really don't know what to do and would really like some advice.