What is your buddy's agenda for planting the seed?
Legitimate question 9. A little background………
My buddy and I have been friends for 20yrs I went through his first D with him and he was a wreck. That was his one true love and he knew it. He knows me and he knows X. As a matter of fact he is good friends with her also and has wanted to show her support in the beginning. He is also very blunt and knows good and well how I have been feeling for a long time. Outside of this board, he is the only one. He also talks to X on occasion to see how she is doing and how she is holding out. He opens up to him from time to time and knows that he cares. When she does he is honest with her, same as with me.
His belief? I love her and I am heartbroken. He also believes that X is also heartbroken and scared. He tries to support her and has tried to be an ear for her but when she starts to excuse her actions he takes her to task. Of course he has his opinions and he shares those with me and I am sure he shares them with her.
He is not giving me false hope. He told me back in January take the hook out of your mouth and move the hell on. She is not done but she is stringing you along. She is prideful and stubborn and when that pride goes away she will crash and crash hard. You on the other hand you are equally prideful but you have to put forgiveness in your heart. Live your life, move on but just know that one day she will come calling back. What you do then is totally up to you but unless you have both learned and healed you will never make it. Know that she will date that she will see other people and it is then that she will wake up. You will to and that is normal. It could be a year two who knows but as I am sure that my name is B I am sure she is going to hit bottom. For now, you live for you and don’t sit around and wait for anything.
Those were his words back in January. Of course back then those words did not make sense to me. I thought that meant I sit around and wait for that day. Now I know better.
He wants to be a friend to her now and he believes that she is in a bad way right now. He hit a nerve with her yesterday but he knew it. He made her think and that is all he wanted to do
