MY parents are non supportive if I stay in this relationship...which is no great tragedy for me as I see it...they have always had their own agenda for me....and it was never all that healthy. Unfortunately I have been financially dependent on them the last few months while this has been working it self through...and they are in contact with the kids from time to time rather poisoning the well if you will.They would pull financial support if they thought we were reconcilling. :
So my parents attitude although distressing is ultimately nothing new......
The kids haven't given me an ultimatun...they are just very skeptical of what is to happen....and this is understandable.
As I said they have had to live the ups and downs and see the fall out from the last few months.....and the time two years ago when he pulled back and of course the fact that we have maintained two places for so many years always felt to them as though he had left us.
But Gabe has alluded to not keeping his relationship up with ME if I choose to continue on with his dad...He says it will eventually affect the relationships with all the kids and eventually alienate me from them...I don't happen to believe this, but rather I think this IS a VERY DIFFICULT transition period where they are all having to move out into their own and it comes at a time when they may not be ready emotionally to separate with such uncetainty and the uncertainty that they feel affects their decisions.
Gabe (S23) really feels like he is being forced out of the home forced to make difficult decisions that he would rather not make and getting no direction form supportive parents. He feels that he lost his dad years ago ( emotionally) and now he is losing me because I am spending so much time with Dr. K.
He looks to me to help him and be there for him and is resentful that in HIS mind I am not there as much for him.....because Dr. K is in the picture.
None of the other kids has issued any sort of ultimatum but are taking a more or less wait and see approach and would not be surprised if we ended up together (they would be happy about that) or apart They would like us to be happy together.
In fact D21 had a chat yesterday with Dr. K and said she hoped we would build a big house in VA! When I asked him why he thought she had said that?... He said that she said: don't forget you have four kids!
Like we could forget. But what this says is, she feels forgotten too?
I know our oldest daughter does get to feeling left out( living in MD now) and wants weekly calls and updates......Dr. K always says he will but often goes a few weeks without actually talking to anyone, he em's and voice mails!!!
I remember in one of your very early posts to me you said that this may be my greatest challenge..... to keep everyone connected...
They would like us to be happy together. 
