sorry, I didn't see your post before I posted mine.
I discussed forgivness in an interview once (cause I'm so darn famous & important )
that the "most important lesson I ever learned...Oh, easy...how vital forgiveness is AND how to do it." Forgiveness is, as my signature says, our way out of hell. It's MANDATORY to a happy m. Period.
SBH, I told Denver that if he KNOWS he cannot forgive, or if his w THINKS he won't, then they are doomed.
No one wants the sword of Damacles over their head the rest of their lives b/c their sin was the worst one....
It doesn't work that way. You have a real scorecard, and it shows every time you discuss your history SBh...that will doom you as it is record keeping & proof, of Not forgiving
I could go on-- but SBH if you are not ready to learn about forgiveness, you will stay stuck (or your m will end when your w gets tired of having to wear a hair shirt). If you are ready to learn about it, there are resources here.
Denver, hope this helps you in some way. Probably reinforces what you already know. And I think your choice will lead you to the other side, whatever choice you make.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
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