Yes Harrier, my W had an EA and I believe she kissed the person...
And she has not communicated with him in 7 months. And the actually EA lasted 45 days. And she is 100% committed to our M...
She told me just last night before we ML, "you are such a great guy. And a much better partner than me."
And even with all that...
You are all correct, I have not forgiven her...
Not sure if I can... Which is why I envy and respect all of you...
funny...I didn't see any respect from you. Just yelling.
Here's something you said in February after you made your w choose you or the OM/EA... she stopped the EA. But she was very depressed. I would peek in the shower and watch her cry. Truth be told, I didn't feel bad for her at all. She did wrong and was paying the consequences. God you sound so punitive here. As if you enjoyed her pain...(except for the ego part.) Then you said to Punchy
A year is a long time... The hardest thing for me Punchy is this...
I MAKE THE MONEY...
So she saw him with the car I pay for So she emailed him from the computer I paid for She texted him from the phone I pay for
Very f'ing frustrating and hurtful! BECAUSE I WANT ALL THE POWER/CONTROL
I do understand my roll in the demise of our marriage but there is no excuse for cheating... REALLY? Where do you ever discuss that? Oh, the "understandable" withdrawal you did for 2-3 years preceeding her EA?
If she had had sex with OM, then al bets would have been off... She would have been done..
But as it stands things are good..
The odd thing for me is that women started to hit on me. It's like they can smell a single or available or vulnerable man... Very odd...
Was I close to taking a bite of the fruit? Yup! Wow....no insight here at all. You almost took the bite, just like your w ALMOST did. You spoke to women you were not married to? Were some of them attractive? Did they boost your ego? Soooo,
the ONLY real difference between your behavior and your w's, is ONE KISS?? No wonder you are so busy condemning/judging/defending yourself...scary to look within, isn't it?
Did I? Nope... And that was with the help of these boards and the great people here...
When all you want is love, and someone is willing to give you something that looks like love, it's hard to resist.. Really measures your character!
Wonder if your w could say the same thing,
since by your own admission, you had checked out of the m long before she did...
But of course in your case, it's different. YOU were justified in that, you were justified pretty much in everything...whereas
She has, "NO EXCUSE!! EVER!!"
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
