Keep moving, but if she treats you with kindness, don't be a dick
Hardest part for me to get. I am committed to staying true to my promise of being kind throughout the whole thing, but I gotta tell you it is hard. My own feelings have just as much merrit as hers and I have A LOT to be angry about. It annoys me that she thinks I don't. Proves that she still does not get it.
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Your buddy planted a seed
Oh Absolutely. He knows it also and that is all he wanted to do.
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No more contact, unless she initiates it
Not a chance. NOC is something I am looking forward to. The way I see it is very simple. When (and she will) Reach that point where she says "what have I done" then the same effort she has made to leave will have to be the same effort she will have to make to repair the damage she has done. Even then, it will be MY choice and my decision. She will have a tall mountain to climb. Not as a punishment, I don't work that way, but because she will have to want it and desire it and fight for it. I am worth the effort.
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Keep moving, but if she treats you with kindness, don't be a dick
Exactly why right now, the NC is a great thing to have.
By the way she called again today to talk about her court order. Small talk but she sounded agitated and said I was being a jerk on the phone. I wasn't I was just not to engaging.
